"Except in rare times of great stress or danger, there is no reason why we cannot say ‘No’ to children in just as kind a way as we say ‘Yes’. Both are words. Both convey ideas which even tiny children are smart enough to grasp. One says, ‘We don’t do it that way’, the other says ‘That’s the way we do it’. Most of the time, that is what children want to find out. Except when overcome by fatigue, curiosity, or excitement, they want to do it right, do as we do, fit in, take part."
– John Holt