The Never-Ending Parent

You may have noticed that Monday came and went without a list of ways to make the day magical this week. 

It’s been one of those weeks.

You’re on your own!  ;)

But in the meantime, I came across this tidbit that I wrote in the Magical Childhood newsletter years ago.  It was written half to a friend who was stressed out as a mom and half as a reminder to myself.

It helps me keep things in perspective.

The Never-Ending Parent

Sometimes it’s hard to be a good parent.
Sometimes you wonder why you’re not like others
Who make themselves the priority, who are stern and unyielding
Or who let everybody else take care of their kids.
Sometimes you envy them their time, their space,
Their full night’s sleep.

Sometimes you start doubting yourself and wondering
If you really are just crazy, being this kind of parent
In this kind of world.

Your house is noisy and full of chaos
And you wonder if it will last forever.

I have a secret.  If you keep this up….
It will.

Think of it.

When you get up at 3 a.m. because your baby cries, think of the time
When he’s a teenager and calls at 3 a.m. to say he needs a ride
Instead of getting in the car with his drunk friends
Because he knows he can be honest with you and that he can count on you.

When you take the time to explain “why” for the hundredth time today
Wondering if you will ever get a moment’s peace and quiet,
Think of the days when your daughter is grown and on her own
And will still call because she loves your conversations.

When you discount all the well-meaning people who tell you to let your baby cry
And you go to him, hold him, comfort him anyway
Think ahead to the times when he’ll be a strong, secure, independent kid
And those people say “I don’t know how you were blessed with such an easy child.”

When you nurse your daughter and hold her close
Spoiling her with all that love and care, think of the time
When you’ll overhear her tell a friend
“My mom and I have always been so close.”

When the house is full of noise, mess and chaos
Think of the days when the kids are grown, and it will start all over
With your grandchildren, because your family is so bonded
That everybody still gathers at your loving home.

No, if you keep this up it will never change.
Your children will be in your life forever.
And honey, you’ll love the noise.

~ Alicia Bayer

Happy Thursday!  I’ll be back with some fun soon!

14 Comments

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14 responses to “The Never-Ending Parent

  1. Alicia, this is wonderful! Thank you :-) The little boost I needed to get through the afternoon, I think.

    Have a great week!

  2. Stephanie W

    So needed to read something like this today. Thanks!

  3. So true! Children are not inconveniences or interruptions, as we sometimes treat them, they are gifts!

  4. Wow. EXACTLY what I needed to read today….and everyday. Thank you!

  5. saps

    very inspiring….

  6. Thank you. This was exactly what I needed to read today.

  7. Kez

    OK, that just made me tear up!

  8. Thank you!! It’s nice to remind myself why I do what I do, especially on those days when things feel so chaotic! I pray that my children will always be close!

  9. Nadia

    Thank you!!! smiles to you and your family! I don’t know you but you are great!

  10. Maria del Mar

    This bring tears to my eyes. It is so beautiful! Thanks for this post. It gives a more clear north to my compass.

  11. Thank you for the wonderful reminder of why I do what I do as a parent. I need these reminders sometimes to help keep me on track.

  12. I really needed that today! I’ve heard it said before, by a friend whose children are now adults. She says the reason they’re still able to call her for help when they’re in real trouble or that they are able to take off on overseas adventures with confidence is because she loved them and gave them confidence as children.

  13. liz

    wow. that touched me today. thank you for sharing that.

  14. I am a Nana now, and I mothering just like the poem and guess what? It is true! everyday my home is overflowing with grandbabies and children and their spouses! It is a wonderful life!

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